Sometimes the deepest pattern isn’t with a partner. It’s with yourself — the quiet ways you keep leaving yourself behind, even in the rooms you worked hardest to enter.
In this special Field Notes episode, Cyd reflects on what surfaced for her during the Black Women Invest (BWI) experience — and the pattern of self-abandonment she watched move through the room and through herself. With honesty and care, she names the way Black women often pour out without ever pouring in, and what it costs to keep doing that.
In this episode:
What self-abandonment actually looks like (and why it’s rarely loud)
Why high-achieving women are often the most disconnected from their own needs
The difference between being responsible and being depleted
Why naming the pattern is the first step to interrupting it
A question to sit with this week:
Where in your life are you consistently leaving yourself behind — and what would it look like to come back?
A free guide for you:
If something in this episode is asking for more, I created 7 Reasons to Self-Invest — a free guide that takes the conversation we just had and gives you something you can hold.
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